Monday, December 22, 2014

Crack Repair

When I saw this, I knew I wanted to try this.  But I don't have any cracks to repair!

If you get to try this before I do, please comment and tell me what happens.




Thursday, May 1, 2014

No Need to Feel Embarrassed!


Don’t ever feel embarrassed!  Let other person feel good!

About 35 years ago, I read a story in the Reader’s Digest with the title “Try the Orange Peel Approach”.  I loved it and when I applied it, I found that it was so easy to think of things this way.  Made a huge difference in my feelings about myself.  Since I haven’t been able to locate it, I will attempt to retell it.  I do not know who wrote it, but it wasn’t me.  Remember that this happened before the age of electric curlers or curling irons.

“Try the Orange Peel Approach”
Susan needed to run to the grocery store just for a couple of things, but her time was packed.  She had to be ready for an office party with her husband that evening so she had washed her hair and put it in hair curlers to dry.  After doing this, she realized she had an unavoidable trip to the store.  She rationalized that she would just run in quickly and grab only what she had to have and leave as fast as possible; no one she knew would see her.   So she put a scarf over the curlers and got in the car.  As she was in the middle of the store, one of her friends called her name and she turned to see Nancy, a woman she knew who always seemed to be put together and appeared to have not a care in the world.  Embarrassed, she greeted her and they began to talk. 
Susan explained that she didn’t normally go shopping with rollers in her hair, but this time it was unavoidable.  She was surprised when Nancy said she should try the “orange peel approach”.  At Susan’s look of confusion, Nancy began to explain.
Years ago, she was at home with her children.   Her hair was pulled back in a ponytail and she hadn’t bothered with any make up that morning.   It had not been a very good day and the house showed it.  It was mid-afternoon and the doorbell rang.  She answered it to find her high school boyfriend, and his wife, on the porch.  She felt like shutting the door in their face, but inviting them in with a smile. 
She had to take them into the family room to visit, because the dog had just thrown up in the middle of the living room floor and there hadn’t been time to clean it up.   But when they got into the family room, there was no place to sit.  She had to move all of the clean clothes from the couch, because she had not yet folded them.  She just tried to ignore the toys on the floor.
Once everyone had a place to sit, she realized that the visitors had a great view of her kitchen.    The table still had dishes from breakfast, including the milk carton that one of the kids had spilled.  She tried to ignore the mess, but she knew her face was red. What would they think?  Everywhere, something needed attention. 
During the conversation, Nancy noticed a piece of an orange peel on the rug fight in front of her.  It wouldn’t be so bad if the peel wasn’t shriveled and dry.  She tried to move the peel with her shoe so her company wouldn’t notice.  Her intention was good, but her old canvas sneakers had a worn spot at the toe and the peel stuck to it and wouldn’t budge.  Finally she had to reach down and pull the thing off her shoe which made it sure that they noticed the old dry orange peel that had been in the middle of the room.  She felt like crawling in a hole!  She knew they could tell how uncomfortable she was then, and they left soon after.
Nancy burst into tears as she shut to door.  How awful to have her old boyfriend see her like this.  What would he think of her?  She was more embarrassed that she could ever remember being.  Just about then, the phone rang.  She answered it with a teary voice, and her husband asked her what was wrong.  She told him everything and how she was so embarrassed.  Her husband was quiet on the other end of the line.  Then he quietly said, “Honey, just think what you did for their marriage?”
“What are you talking about?” she asked.
Her husband calmly said “When they left, he probably turned to his wife and told her that he was really lucky to have married her.”
“Ever since then, when things are going badly or we have been embarrassed, we tell each other to try the “Orange Peel Approach” and it helps us put things into perspective.  Even though we may be embarrassed, the other person is probably feeling better about themselves.  We think of it as helping the other person’s self-esteem.”
As Susan finished her shopping trip, she thought about the orange peel.  The more she thought about it the less embarrassed she felt.   She looked at the women she passed and found herself smiling at them instead of feeling embarrassed about having curlers in her hair.  She walked out to her car with her head high and a smile on her face.

After I read this, it made all the awkward situations just a bit easier.
I could go without make up and it didn’t bother me—I just thought about how good the others would feel about how they looked.
If someone saw my house messy, it didn’t bother me—I just thought about how they would feel when they walked into their clean house.
Don’t ever feel embarrassed!  Let other person feel good!

Wednesday, April 23, 2014

Since October 2013, I have been submerged in doing Family History work. Adding photos and documents is really fun and helps tell the about the individual.  Finding Family Names to take to the Temple is just plain satisfying!     The most difficult part was finding ancestors, because the DIRECT LINE has been covered by so many people.  But the instructions from Salt Lake are now to "Find Your Cousins".  This means checking the children, grandchildren, spouses, and anyone else attached to your pedigree.

Doing this by hand can be a cumbersome task!  It takes long hours and you can easily lose your place.  I was taught a pattern for doing this in February; and it made a lot of difference.  Now I could find cousins in an orderly manner and not loose my place.  However, it still took many hours of time to just find! Then I had to do the research aspect, in order to make sure that each person was listed with the correct parents, siblings, spouse and children.

Last week I was talking with my son, who is Bishop in Idaho.  I was talking about how many family names we had and if he wanted some to do.  He told me that he had called a new Family History Consultant, who was teaching the ward members how to do what I was doing.  Then he told me about Pandora's Hope Chest and how this was one of the tools the new FH Consultant was using.  He blew me away when he said that the new FH Consultant was my 9 year old grandson!

Of course, I went and added the program to my browser (only for Chrome) and started it running!  It took hours to run and I ended up with over 1800 names in the Hope Chest!  I have been working to verify and prove the individuals, so we can reserve ordinances till needed.


IT IS VERY IMPORTANT TO PROVE THE INDIVIDUALS!!


I can't stress this enough!  So many times, people wee a green arrow and take it straight to the temple.  NO!!  You need to make sure you have the person as accurate as possible; linked to the right parents; married to the right spouse; that the children listed for them are really their children.... and the list goes on.

I can't tell you how many times I have found a female listed as a male, or a son married to his mother or grandmother because the names were the same.  Doing work for someone who is listed wrong, or has already had ordinances done, is wasting time.  Take a few minutes to find those who REALLY need work done.  It takes less time to verify than to do the work for them.  Maybe that means that one day when you would be going to the temple, you work at your computer instead.  It all is part of the process. 


There is no temple work to do without doing the research and verification first!


This slide presentation will help you see just a few of the reasons for proving the individual.   
(http://www.slideshare.net/cathyanderegg/very-very-newest-best-why-clean-ft-duplicates)



Tuesday, April 22, 2014

It's been a while since I posted!!  Since a great part of my life is spent doing family history,  thought I'd share this story with you.  I found it on Facebook and don't know if it is completely true or not.  But it nicely illustrates the fact that you can look at things any way you choose to; just be sure you have ALL the facts before you make any judgements! 


"Judy Walkman, a professional genealogy researcher in southern California , was doing some personal work on her own family tree. She discovered that Senator Harry Reid's great-great uncle, Remus Reid, was hanged for horse stealing and train robbery in Montana in 1889. Both Judy and Harry Reid share this common ancestor.
The only known photograph of Remus shows him standing on the gallows in Montana territory.
On the back of the picture Judy obtained during her research is this inscription: 'Remus Reid, horse thief, sent to Montana Territorial Prison 1885, escaped 1887, robbed the Montana Flyer six times. Caught by Pinkerton detectives, convicted and hanged in 1889.'
So Judy recently e-mailed Senator Harry Reid for information about their great-great uncle.
Believe it or not, Harry Reid's staff sent back the following biographical sketch for her genealogy research:
"Remus Reid was a famous cowboy in the Montana Territory . His business empire grew to include acquisition of valuable equestrian assets and intimate dealings with the Montana railroad. Beginning in 1883, he devoted several years of his life to government service, finally taking leave to resume his dealings with the railroad. In 1887, he was a key player in a vital investigation run by the renowned Pinkerton Detective Agency. In 1889, Remus passed away during an important civic function held in his honor when the platform upon which he was standing collapsed."
Now THAT’s how it’s done, Folks!
That’s real Political Spin!!"